Messy Monday: Setting Boundaries with our Children ………Cleaning up some *stinkin thinkin*

Today’s post is definitely for this Messy Monday.

Cleaning Up some ‘stinkin thinkin.’

I personally have never discussed or shared with other mothers this area of liberation that I experienced in my life as it relates to today’s posts that is so poignantly shared.

I guess, I never did so because in the back of my mind the idea of *setting boundaries* in the life of my children (particularly the ones I had set)  might be looked at as if I was less than what a *Mother should* be or do.
(Not that I care what other Moms may think of me. 🙂 Because I really don’t.)
Or maybe I never shared or had conversations with Moms regarding boundaries I set with my children or boundaries they may consider setting with their children because, simply, they may not be ready for those types of boundary setting yet.
In addition to the levels of freedom I felt within myself by setting boundaries or changing up the things that I had always done with my older children vs. my younger children was *at times* unsettling to me yet I knew that they were okay.
Change was okay, right?
No one would feel *left out or short changed, right?*
Yet, if they did then would this be the end of the world for them?
Would it scar them?
I pray that today’s blog post from Chrystal Hurst will encourage your heart, clean up some *Messy* thinking and bring some liberation and freedom to you.
I’d like to hear what you think about today’s post. Take a few moments after reading to share your thoughts. Thanks in advance. 🙂
by Chrystal Hurst
setting boundaries
Be encouraged!
What boundaries do you feel you need to implement with your children?
Angela

Messy Monday: Hard Boiled Egg……….who knew?

You know…..some may say that simple pleasures in life is not a BIG DEAL!

However, they may not be a BIG DEAL but they sure are convenient when you get to experience them.

So for all of you *hard boiled* egg eaters…….here’s a special pleasure to help stay away from all the *mess* of hard boiled eggs. This 3 sec. video is for YOU!! (and me too. :p)

hard boiled egg

Pretty cool?

Enjoy!

Angela

Messy Monday: RETURNING TO PUBLIC SCHOOL AFTER BEING HOME SCHOOLED

There are a plethora of reasons why a family decides to homeschools.

There are varying reasons why a family that once homeschooled may need to return to another method of schooling. i.e. public school, private school or charter/virtual school.

homeschool to public schol

For this Messy Monday we are going to *clean-up* a few pieces of information that may be quite unclear.

If you are considering or needing to halt your tenor of homeschooling while living in South Carolina then there are a few pieces of information you should be aware of.

The South Carolina Department of Education shines some light on a few Frequently Asked Questions.

If home-schooled students return to public school, will they automatically start in the classes or at grade levels the home school teacher/parents say that they have completed?
Answer: If home-schooled students return to a South Carolina public school district, the district has the right to place the students in classes/grade levels which the district/school deems is instructionally appropriate for the students. In other words, because parents tell the district that the students have completed certain grade levels, does not mean the students will be placed into the next grade level. (District instructional placement of returning home-schooled students is usually based on some type of test results that the district determines.)

 

Just keep in mind the following…
“By law they should have been keeping attendance records and a portfolio of work, so the only thing the district is asking for that is not already required by law would be the co-ops they have been part of.  Depending on what grade they are, schools do not have to accept the credits the parents give.”- Gale Farrier, SCHEA President

Also…………

SCDOE FAQ
Do home-schooled students in grades 7–12 receive high school credit for any courses that they pass?
Answer: Home-schooled students in grades 7–12 receive credits from their home school program. These credits would show on the transcript that is maintained by the parent or the association. Those credits, however, are not automatically accepted by other public or private schools.
 
If you should find yourself in a position where you are being asked over and beyond what the law indicates by a public school then you may need to take further actions to make sure your rights aren’t being violated.
So with this Messy Monday clean up please keep in mind the importance of maintaining your child’s records/portfolio according to Option 3 standards.
For a quick reminder of Option 3 laws please visit:
If you have questions please be sure to post your questions:
Angela

Messy Monday: Keeping it Clean……….How our students learn

This week’s Messy Monday is all about “Cleaning UP your thought process in how to teach your specific student according to the way in which he/she learns. :p

For sure, we each have come to realize that each of our children have a special way of learning.

Without a doubt we realize this each and every day ESPECIALLY if you have more than one child you are homeschooling.

You have some missing strands of hair to prove that you have *such* knowledge. :p

To make teaching a little more challenging would be the fact that we as their instructors often learn differently than they do <sigh>

……..which can be frustrating when trying to give instructions. Ha.

However, the beauty comes when our children *figure* out their learning bend.

This usually don’t happen until they are much older and further along in school.

BUT. IT. HAPPENS.

However, if you pay attention to some specific cues you and I can figure their learning types sooner than later.

These are the *normal* categories of learners:

*auditory learners

*kinesthetic learners

*visual learners

*tactile

Over at *Guilt-free Homeschooling*, Carolyn and Jennifer has done a GREAT job explaining these various types of learners and why it is key to know what type learning your child has………..And what type learning YOU are for that matter.

Click HERE to learn in detail about the type of learning you may be instructing.

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I hope this bit of knowledge helps you to have a less Messy Monday on the future Mondays and other days of the week to come! 🙂

Enjoy!

Angela

Messy Monday: Permanent Black Marker. Say what?

If you EVER had the wonderful experience (using wonderful very loosely) to find the beautiful, artistic and creativeness of black PERMANENT marker on your walls, mirrors, school books, vehicle, sofa, various articles of clothing that you paid money for or even ON YOUR CHILDREN………

Then you WILL appreciate this week’s Messy Monday post.

You see, this is such an important post of information BECAUSE being homeschoolers we probably have had *little ones* around….a time or two. ;P

AND PERMANENT BLACK MARKERS!

And sometimes the two don’t marry well……

in certain circumstances.

So just in case you need to know how to handle this:

black marker on the face
Tadah….I did it. 🙂

You will want to know this: removing permanent face marker

Smh!

May we never have the *pleasure* ( I use *pleasure* loosely) of having to utilize the above list. 🙂

But just in case we do…………just smile and sing *Oh my. Oh my. Oh my.*

Find the above list and get to work.

And…..

Keep moving on. 🙂

To your black marker success.

Angela 🙂

Messy Mondays: Perfectly Imperfect (video)

This Messy Monday is dispelling all of the MESS that’s floating around.

Hopefully this Messy Monday post will help *clean-up* some stink’in thinkin’.

I pray this Messy Monday is purposeful in destroying some thought processes that the enemy (satan/the devil) has been implanting within your heart and mind.

perfectly imperfect

I am CONSTANTLY amazed at how the Lord does what He does.

Today’s post (the below video) resonates my exact sentiments that I was sharing with my dearest friend and prayer partner just. this. weekend.

The truths that I feel the Lord placed on my heart for where I am in life fully applies to all aspects of life.

To include……...HOMESCHOOLING.

Those same truths I just heard in a video by a blogger. Ha!

First of all, as women we know that it’s a WONDERFUL thing to have someone close to you with whom you may share the good, bad and ugly and know that they will not judge you, demote your character nor hold it against your good will and nature. On the contrary, they will lovingly embrace you and your stuff as they faithfully, closely and genuinely stand with you.

My closest friend who has been my prayer partner now for a little over 10 years is such a gal.

Oh my……..I thank the Lord for her constantly and I love her deeply.

This past week we have been on and off the phone praying for each other regarding our individual life’s issues.

One of the things I shared with her a mist our praying was some things I recently have learned and have been pondering this week.

1. NO ONE IS PERFECT.

No matter what it looks like, appears or is put forward before you…..no one is perfect nor has it all together. Everyone has their own share of stuff that they are walking through. Rich. Poor. New car. Old Car. Smart children. Godly children. Rebellious children. Big bank account. Little funds in the account etc. Life is full of mountains and valleys. No matter your status. For those who are followers of Christ we are not exempt from these varying seasons of life which aren’t always pleasant.

2.  EVERYONE IS NOT *FOR* YOUR GOOD. 

Being that I am one who always want to think the best of people, their motives and their intentions the cruel fact is that not everyone is for your good. A friend of mines said the following slogan to me about two weeks ago that she lives by, “Keep your friends close and your enemies even closer.”

Yikes!! That baffled me when we said it. Her point is that you know your friends are usually for your good. But it is those who you think are for your good that aren’t really, you have the gut feeling that they aren’t………those are the ones you need to keep closest. Well, I’m not sure what I feel about that but I get it. So with that said……..small circle of company is key. I’ve always lived by that rule. Talk with everyone but keep a small circle of those you call dearest to you.

Jesus demonstrate that rule. And my Mom taught me that too but I thought, at the time, she was just overly impersonal. Now I know she wasn’t.

3. LOOK UP TO THOSE WHO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU. CAN. DO. IT. OR YOU. CAN. MAKE. IT.

I have always had a great conviction of NEVER portraying to someone that they can’t do what I do. Or that they can never achieve any level of aspirations that I have accomplished. I’m all about helping someone get to *where I think I am* at that time. Additionally, anyone that has made me feel that way purposefully or not I’ve always tended to move away from. You know? Sometimes that *air* can be released that just lets you know or causes you to feel that you can’t do it nor have you arrived. That bothers me to my core and I hate to hear anyone ever say of me they felt I was unapproachable or that they could never do what I do. “Well YES. YOU. CAN.” Who am I?

There is a heart-beat and self-centered motivation that beats from the heart of some that purposefully want others to feel inferior and *unworthy* and it’s not right. And I don’t desire to connect with that heart/spirit/attitude at.all.

So it was quite interesting to have shared those feelings with my dear friend as we talked about our families, marriages, trials, woes and concerns. We talked about those things a lot this week. Ha.

Which if I may relate them to our homeschooling and our lives as homeschoolers this is what I would say.

1. No one has the perfect homeschool. I don’t care how organized Ms. Organized is……..her homeschooling isn’t perfect. Maybe *perfect* in her world for all of five minutes as pictures were taken or a lesson taught or whatever. But she, Ms. Perfect Homeschooler, has her days too. She’s human and humans are. not. perfect.

I don’t care what they want you to believe or think.

2. As a homeschooling Mom surround yourself with those who is rooting you on and desires for  your success. Do not…..do not connect with those who feel they want to compete against you. Or always trying to *keep one up* on you. Or make you feel inferior. Catch the air of *cynicism* that may blow by you as those who aren’t really for your good in homeschooling or schooling your children come your way to cause you to feel otherwise.

3. Connect with those homeschooling families who are willing to build you up, pour their all into you to help you become the best homeschooling Mom/Dad you can be. Those who make you feel as if, “You can indeed do it.” Those who make you feel as if they have nothing to loose by sharing with you all that they may have gained. Align yourself with and your children with families that helps the best shine forth and not your worst come forth as you homeschool.

Well…..the below video is such a video that relays an encouraging word on real life terms as well as something I think you can pull to use towards your homeschooling endeavors.

Just remember we each are Perfectly Imperfect! 🙂

Messy Monday: Unbelievable Organizational tips and More. *Rise and Shine Binder*

I have stumbled across a great website with lots of *Messy Monday* ideas.

Messy Monday is designed to help YOU and ME  find creative ways for organization within our home during homeschooling. This can be organization within our children’s school work. Or within our home itself. Or within our hearts, minds and bodies.

Organization covers a lot of areas. 🙂 Let me tell you!

When I read through this blog page it made me all excited to see all the color and organization etc. Which then caused me to realize that *there was a lot of time* put into all of this.

Oh. My.Goodness!

So I want to share this blog website. Hopefully you can peruse through it to find some creative ideas for your family and homeschooling.

However, I think this weeks Messy Monday ideas may help many of us in our planning for next year. Maybe even get a planning group together to brain storm ideas. Or even brain storm ideas for UCHU-STEAM Academy.

At any rate….. here ya go!

Rise and Shine Binder

rise and shine binder

Enjoy!

Angela

Messy Mondays: Three Great Tips for Organization

Organization…..

I have this certain thought about it….

I like it and I don’t like.

Let me explain.

For me personally, I use to be *over the top* organized.

I spent my energies, time and focus on my house and everything that concerned it.

From the time *before* the sun came up. Until after the sun was down. I was obsessed with things being a *certain* way.

My children could hardly live in it. Or play with a toy.

I was always uptight about this or that or something being here or there or not in the place it should have been. Or everything being clean. Perfectly made beds without a wrinkle. Every shoe in it’s place etc. etc. etc……..after boring etc.

Although this is a life style to be desired by most……it was a life style I wanted to be delivered from!!

After years of making my home my *god* I really feel the Lord set-me-free of that obsession.

Grant it, we should desire to be clean people. But we should not be obsessed and worshipful of the god of *organization.*

I certainly didn’t want my children to grow up living with an *uptight* Mom over her *house* when I teach them not to be uptight over material things.

HHhhhmmm……this thought process didn’t jive at all. And the Holy Spirit called me out on it many years ago.

With HIS help, HE keeps me in balance.

Clean, organized but not worshiping my stuff and the place in which they must *live* in (or be kept and never moved from). 🙂 With a family of 10 people I’m glad that I got delivered from this mind-set *sooner* than *later.*

Maybe this is resonating with some of you. :p

So this series of blogs that I am focusing on for Messy Monday’s is not to bring us to the place of *worshiping* organization, neatness, cleanliness etc. It’s simply to point us to a healthy place of good stewardship.

I pray that this blog post linked down below helps to do so just a little.

The Three Great Secrets to Organization

click on the above link

messy homeschool room clean homeschool room

Enjoy! Angela P.

Messy Monday: Homeschooling and Home-Cleaning :p

I’m SURE you thought Messy Monday would focus on doing something with your children that is FUN and MESSY!

Well, I’m changing it up a bit this week. We are going to focus on the OPPOSITE of being Messy!!!

That is being CLEAN. ORGANIZED WHILE homeschooling!

Ok….Nobody and I mean *nobody* understands this focused concern, continually monkey on the back, daily grind more than I do.

Years ago I decided to make life easier for myself by having a well planned out chore schedule in order to keep our home clean.

I will say that i was MUCH EASIER keeping a clean house when my children were little as opposed to now when they are older. 😛

While they were little, I decided what things they were going to have, where they would play with it and when they would play with it.

While they are older, they have all sorts of *stuff* they want to hold on to (pack racks), things they want to pull out and look at here, there and every where. Just stuff. So at times I am constantly having them pick up *their* stuff while they maintain their chore list.

Most of the time our weeks will go back flawless and our house is kept clean and orderly.

But sometimes…….. just sometimes…… Well you. Disaster just happen and chore list is forgotten for a few days.

But with so many people in our home I still find that we have tons of stuff to deal with and find a place for……….especially since we live in a smaller house than what we did just a year ago as of this writing.

So……for Messy Monday’s focus my goal is to provide helpful resources to assist you in keeping your *house school* orderly, organized and clean.

It may involve a lot of work on the front end but the benefits are rewarding on the back end. 🙂

perfect homeschool room

Finally, DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELVES TO THESE BEAUTIFUL PICTURED ARTICLES OF PERFECTION that I have as resources to read!!!

They are pictures.

They are blogs.

And they are suppose to look/sound perfect.

Take what you find helpful. Work on a few elements at a time. Add to the few helpful things you can grasp right now. Then grow from there. 🙂

Happy a Happy Messy Monday (Clean Monday)!

Simply CLICK on the below links to go to the helpful website. 🙂

Cleaning Schedule for Homeschool Families

Keeping a Tidy Home While Homeschooling

Keeping It Simple: Lessons on Household Management

Enjoy!

Angela P.

Serving You and Yours. 🙂

Messy Monday: Shaving Creme Valentine’s Cards

Well…….

It’s time for Messy Monday.

Since Valentine’s is *right around the corner* why not go ahead and get a start on those preparations.

After 42 years of life and may 37 of those years be able to *conceive* the idea of Valentine’s Day, I’m still not sure what I think of it.

I mean……I love – those I love- EVERYDAY! Not quite sure I need a *special day* that someone thought up in order to celebrate LOVE.

At any rate, as I continue to muel this thought over enjoy this week’s Messy Monday!

Shaving Creme Valentine’s Cards  <<< Click

Shaving Creme Valentine's Cards

Enjoy!

Angela