United Community of Homeschoolers Unlimited accepts new members YEAR ‘ROUND.

Ready to become a member with United Community of Homeschoolers Unlimited to receive legal status to homeschool in South Carolina?

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administrator/director/owner

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Looking up When you Want to Look Down

Have you every noticed where you look when you are feeling down or discouraged?

We look at our feet

We look at our hands

We look at the ground

We look down when we feel down. 

Likewise, when we are happy or feeling well where do we look?

We look at the sky

We look at birds

We look at others in their eyes

We look up when we are happy.

So when we have a rough day, we look down on ourselves, talk down on what we did “wrong” in the day, and we are stuck in that thought process for a while. When that rough day includes our inability to check everything off the school list, we tend to be really tough on ourselves.

This helps nothing and leaves us feeling down, affects us more, and creates a cycle

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In my family, we struggle with depression and illnesses that connect to depression. In middle school I started to show some of the same signs as my family, that I was struggling with depression. Since then I have gone through many changes, read many articles, and tried many things to help break my down cycle but the one thing that I found that helps the most, often times the fastest, is simply looking up.

I cannot remember what the name of the study was but I remember in high school, reading a study that was done on the affects of where we look on how we feel for the day and even the hormones our bodies release in relation. When a group of people looked down more often in their day, to think, to dwell, to just look and see what was more at their feet, they had a lower feeling about their day and their productivity. In connection, their hormones that contribute to happiness were lower across the board. When a group of people were told to then keep their eyes up for the same amount of time in a day, the results were greatly different. Overall their moods were better, they had a better outlook on things in their lives, they were generally more positive, and the happiness hormones were higher.

Intrigue by this simple but seemingly effective method, I tried it. For a week I focused on constantly adjusting my gaze. Every time I found myself looking down, I made myself look up. I would be thinking about a bad class or a tough time at home, realize I was looking at the sidewalk as it passed, and force my eyes up and I would look at the clouds. I was still thinking about the same things, trying to figure out how to do better or “fix” something, but I was looking up.

I was surprised by how different I felt in just that first week.

Now, many years down the road, many tough times, trials, and struggles, I still do this. I still look up when I feel down and I still feel worlds better for it. Where I used to spend a week or two feeling down, struggling to feel better, it turned into maybe only a day or two. I still have tough days, I still struggle with depression trying to take over, I still have things I need to try to figure out, but I am more optimistic and I can better see possible solutions as well.

When kids are acting up and I feel like I have not taught them well enough, I am not stuck thinking on the negatives. I look up and start thinking on ways to resolve their misbehavior. When we have a rough school day and not even a quarter of the work is done but I have called it quits for the day, I am no longer stuck beating myself up mentally for the rest of the week. When I have trouble socially and am second guessing absolutely everything I said or did at a get together, I look up and find myself feeling better and more focused on the fun parts.

Where we look directly affects how we feel.

What we fix our eyes on directly affects what we focus on.

What we look at during the day directly affects how we think about ourselves.

Next time you feel down and want to look down, try looking up. You too may be surprised and you may also see better possibilities in your day. Your outlook on the school day will be better. Your feelings on your productivity for the day will be improved. Your thoughts on yourself will be better. Maybe not right away, maybe not even the first day or two, but try it for a time.

Look up and feel up

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Greetings! My name is Joy and I am currently a stay at home mom who is home schooling her three kids in South Carolina. I love learning and I love sharing the love of learning with others so getting to home school my kids and watch the “ah ha” moments when they understand something is unbelievably rewarding. I have been homeschooling since my twins were preschool age so we are going on 8 years now. I am also a military spouse so we have the added joy of being a military family with some of the complications that come with it.  As a family we stay busy with our scouting groups, American Heritage Girls and TrailLife, and we do many camping and hiking trips with them. When I have down time, I am typically reading books I have sitting around the house, on YouTube/websites getting more information on different home school programs or working on plans for homeschool. I look forward to being able to share our experiences with everyone and help encourage all homeschooling families.

Stop Reading So Much

Being a homeschooler, we say some pretty odd things sometimes that other parents typically don’t.

Math is not done on the dog.

(well, honestly, sometimes it is)

No we are not using the cat in a science experiment.

(unless it is on feline behavior)

Why are you doing your handwriting upside down?

(apparently it’s better that way)

How did you even get your laptop up there?

(rafters in the garage is not a safe place)

My personal favorite and the one that gets the most laughs when others hear it is when I have to tell my daughter she is reading too much again. She will read for 8 hours straight, stop for a snack and try to pick up the next book to keep going. She will read like this for a whole week too if I am not careful.

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I love that she loves to read. She is exactly how I was at her age, but my mom was right, we need to find a balance.

Too much of anything, good for your health or not, is not good for you at all.

If you drink too much water, you can actually poison yourself. There are studies on marathon runners that show that when they train too hard, too often, it actually weakens their hearts. Too many protein rich foods can be bad for you. Too many salads all the time can be bad for you. Even too much reading can be bad for you.

Balance is necessary in all things in life.

We need to teach our kids this for their benefit. It is not always reading that needs to be limited in my house. My older boy is obsessed with Legos and will over focus on the smallest details and become very agitated when interrupted. My younger boy has a common tendency to joke around too much when he should be doing other things.

What ever their one thing is, balance is needed. I show my kids balance by modeling it (or trying to, because, let’s be honest, life likes to throw us curve balls) but I also talk to them. I point out how long they have been doing the one thing. I ask them questions to specifically get them to think through what the issue is and what else they could do. I discuss with them why it is an issue, despite how good reading is. I have them tell me options of what they want to do instead of what they were and then they move on.

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Greetings! My name is Joy and I am currently a stay at home mom who is home schooling her three kids in South Carolina. I love learning and I love sharing the love of learning with others so getting to home school my kids and watch the “ah ha” moments when they understand something is unbelievably rewarding. I have been homeschooling since my twins were preschool age so we are going on 8 years now. I am also a military spouse so we have the added joy of being a military family with some of the complications that come with it.  As a family we stay busy with our scouting groups, American Heritage Girls and TrailLife, and we do many camping and hiking trips with them. When I have down time, I am typically reading books I have sitting around the house, on YouTube/websites getting more information on different home school programs or working on plans for homeschool. I look forward to being able to share our experiences with everyone and help encourage all homeschooling families.

Just Take a Knee

 If you are a football fan, you have more than likely heard the term ‘take a knee’ in reference to the actual game and not protests in recent years. It’s when the play starts, the ball is handed to the quarterback, and the quarterback goes down on one knee. This act ends the play and in most cases the time clock runs out ending the game. The team who has the lead preserves the win and they don’t have to play until the very last second of the game. You essentially finish and win the game without putting forth any additional effort.

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UCHU’s October Newsletter has arrived!!

Lot’s of great information is in your email inbox waiting for you.

UCHU-AA members be sure to check for this month’s UCHU news. You will certainly find content that you need to know or wanted to know.

As always if you have questions about anything or need anything clarified please let me know.

Serving You and Yours,

Angela Jordan Perry,

UCHU owner/director/administrator

Breaks are OK

Usually, articles that are related to homeschooling and breaks, tend to be about giving your kids breaks.

Play breaks

Mental breaks

Scheduled breaks

Short breaks between semesters

But what about breaks for the teacher?

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Dentists, Doctors, and health providers all say that once we have children, we tend to stop taking care of ourselves the way we should. Our teeth get worse. Our general health becomes worse. Our mental health is greatly challenged, lol. We are not focused on us.

What we need is to make sure we have breaks too.

Many homeschool parents right now are thinking, “There is no way I have time for that.” Let me ask you though, is it easier to do preventative maintenance on your house or deal with a broken air unit out of the blue? Is it easier to do regular oil changes in your car or deal with a suddenly seized engine on the way to a field trip? Likewise, is it easier to take small breaks for yourself now or deal with burnout or even a mental snap later?

It is OK to take a 15 minute break to 3 hour break for yourself. Yes, I said three hours. They will not die without you if you step out for 3 hours once a month. And every break time will look different. They depend on what needs your family has, how old your kids are and what kind of support system you have in place, but you NEED a break too.

Some people take a break by getting a cup of coffee, or tea and sitting on the porch with a fun book for 10 or 15 mins.

Some people take a break by taking a walk for 15 or 30 minutes.

Some people take a break by getting their nails done and having lunch with a friend.

Some people take a break by pulling out a guitar or other musical instrument and playing for a while.

In home breaks are OK too, as long as you have an actual break. The kids can learn that that is the time for them to do something quietly in their room. Their own break time if you will. Or that can be when they are doing independent work and they really do not need you hovering anyway. You can check their work when your break is done and you are better able to think.

I will stress the importance of a regular, out of the house, for a decent stretch of time, away from kiddos, break here. Once a month, or even every quarter if that is what can be worked out, but you must step out, breath, rejuvenate yourself and ground yourself before trying to jump back into the crazy fun tornado that is homeschooling. A break in the house still has our mind wandering to what the kids are doing.

Are they doing their work right?

Do I hear my youngest playing again instead of doing handwriting?

What if parts of the new fun schooling I just bought are lost while I am not looking?

These thoughts are parenting thoughts. They are there for a reason, but they do not allow us a full, proper break. That is why I emphasize an out of the house break.

No, a trip to the playground does not count. You are still focused on the kiddos, their safety and if someone just put their mouth on the nasty monkey bars.

You need a break, so you can keep what sanity you have left, and so that you can give your children the best you you can be.

Breaks really are OK. Try it some time.

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Greetings! My name is Joy and I am currently a stay at home mom who is home schooling her three kids in South Carolina. I love learning and I love sharing the love of learning with others so getting to home school my kids and watch the “ah ha” moments when they understand something is unbelievably rewarding. I have been homeschooling since my twins were preschool age so we are going on 8 years now. I am also a military spouse so we have the added joy of being a military family with some of the complications that come with it.  As a family we stay busy with our scouting groups, American Heritage Girls and TrailLife, and we do many camping and hiking trips with them. When I have down time, I am typically reading books I have sitting around the house, on YouTube/websites getting more information on different home school programs or working on plans for homeschool. I look forward to being able to share our experiences with everyone and help encourage all homeschooling families.

A Blocked Schedule

Let’s talk schedules. Daily schedules are a major piece in keeping your homeschool organized. It would be so nice if everything fell into place each day. You know little people and big people completed all their assignments without you telling them to do so. Meals just appear hot and ready on the table just as tummies were empty. Clear sunny skies, rainbows, butterflies..all that jazz.

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I’d love to have a homeschool that works like that, but I don’t. I have to create a plan or at least create a framework that structures our time throughout the day. I have set up an hourly schedule in the past, but I could never consistently follow them. Everytime I tried to implement these hourly schedules, something happened to throw a wrench in the plan and our day was completely decimated. 

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Be what you want to See

I have heard this phrase numerous times and in various ways.

Put out the good you want to get back.

Show others how you want them to treat you.

Be the light in the world you want to see in the dark.

If you want your kid to behave a certain way, then model that behavior.

For the most part I didn’t think much about this phrase until I had kids. I am sure you have all noticed that the one thing a kid will mimic or copy from you is the one thing you do not want them to. The hands on their hips. The smart mouth come backs. The cuss words (for those who let them occasionally slip). Even the state of their bedroom is a reflection of yours. And it drives you nuts. They watch us and reflect what they see back.

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One of my kids is a master procrastinator, everything can wait till later and nothing needs to be done right now. He can put off laundry, school work, and even taking a shower. Reading one page in a book he does not want to read can take literally all day and this drives me insane. This is one of my bad habits and I know it. Granted, I have greatly improved over the years, but he has seen enough of my procrastination to pick up on it.

Another kid of mine is bossy. She is a matter of fact, cut and dry, black or white type of thinking person and there is no wiggle room. She can be the sweetest person to other kids, turn around and snap at her brother for not doing a chore exactly right. She can help a friend reorganize and clean up their room but adamantly refuse to help her brother because “he should have stayed on top of his room.” Her bossy tone and general snappy remarks drive me up the wall and cause so many fights in the house. If I am honestly with myself, I know I tend to do the very same thing. On a small scale, I am a quiet person so not full volume as she does, but I do the same things.

My youngest is my messy room child. His version of putting something away in his room is to walk in the door, throw it into the middle of the room and walk back out. His task is done, time to move on to the next thing. He is constantly leaving things out around the house too. I cannot tell you how many times I have found a Lego creature of his left out, a coloring book laying around, or the last game he was playing with just sitting on the floor in a room. I cannot not believe he would just leave things laying around to be stepped on, that he would treat his things with such disregard ….. you probably should not looking my room right now. This one I have not gotten better at yet. I still walk in my room, toss something in, and walk right back out. “I don’t have the time” I tell myself.

... I need to make the time.

The fact of the matter is these little living creatures we created, are our carbon copies if you will. What ever we have done on the surface, they copy and show right back to us. We cannot stand these bad habits and behaviors because we have tried to Teach them better, but they need to be Shown better.

Two years ago I started my degree (again) and I have been working diligently. I am honest with my kids on how I feel about the school work. Sometimes it is easy and sometimes I would rather be doing anything else besides work on school work. Then I show them that I work on it anyway. I do not make a big show of this, I just sit down, say I have to work on my school for a while and I get it done. In the past two years, while I have been showing my kids my hard work with school and focus that I keep on it while I am working, I have noticed an improvement in my own kids’ work. They are staying on task more. They are doing better at showing me their best work the first time. They are not putting off school work as often. I have told them time and again what I expect from them, how I want their school work done and how there is no playing till it is done. I did not start seeing a noticeable change in their work until I modeled for them what I expected.

No, you do not need to go back to school to model the school behavior you want your children to show, but you can set aside time for mommy school. Either work on a reading list and a workbook to keep your mind fresh and active while they are working on theirs, or do it later on while they play. Either way they see you working diligently and purposefully. If I want my kids to do better keeping up with their rooms, I need to finish organizing my room and show them how I expect them to take care of theirs. If I want my daughter to speak to others better on a regular basis, I really need to get a full hold on my own tongue.

Despite our kids seeming like they do not pay attention to us, they are watching and they are showing us what they see. We need to show our children how to have the positive behaviors we want them to have.  We need to show them how and not just tell them. I didn’t use to pay this phrase much attention, but now I constantly remind myself of this.

Be the change you wish to see in your children. 

Speak Life

Today’s post will be short and sweet. I want to encourage you all today to always speak positive words and have positive thoughts toward your homeschool journey. What you say and think about your children, your teaching abilities, and your home all play a major role in your success this school year. You can not expect to have excellence if you are constantly speaking mediocrity.

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Why is Writing so Difficult

I personally love to write.

I write poems

I write short stories

I write short stories in a poem format

I learned to love the act of writing in middle school.

I have had the hardest time teaching the same thing to my kids.

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My kids do wonderfully with narration. They can retell a story or a movie very well and with enthusiasm. They remember every plot twist, every funny moment, and every sad situation of the book or movie. If you ask them to write it down though, it is the end of the world. Fussing,

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